The Timing of Engagement, Pregnancy, Jobs, etc..

Ecclesiastes 3:11-He has made everything beautiful in HIS time.

 Most of my blogs are about relationships, but if you are going through something that you're tired of waiting on, or it just isn't on your schedule or time frame, PLEASE  replace the word engagement or marriage with your specific issue. These may include, but are not limited to, pregnancy, jobs, financial issues, honesty, etc.

If you have ever asked God even once, when you're going to get engaged,  or questioned why it hasn't happened yet, this is for you.

For the first 3 years Cory and I were together, all I could think about was marriage. LIKE WOULD YOU HURRY UP, PLEASE?! HAHAHAHAHAHA. I had no idea what in the world I was thinking... I was rushing it, I was expecting is, looking for it at every corner. But I wasn't going to find it.

Until you become completely content with God's timing, you will never be satisfied with the way your life is going. We have all heard that "God's timing is perfect.” If you look up, at Ecclesiastes 3:11, you will see the verse that I grasp onto very tightly. This is the verse that has made me stop in my tracks and pray for me and Cory to be engaged and married at the right time. Instead of begging God to make it happen, I had asked it to be on His time, so that we would know how to have the best marriage we possibly could. That's what one of my main goals is in life; to have a Christ-like marriage and raise children in a godly home. Why would I compromise that?

If you’re not engaged, pregnant or haven't gotten that job just yet, God’s saying it’s not the right time; you’re not ready. When God says you’re not ready for marriage, you’re not ready for marriage. I’m not saying you don’t need to be with that person, but as a couple, you are not ready to fulfill the requirements of marriage. Or maybe your financial situation isn't where it needs to be, maybe there are some unresolved or unanswered questions. But it’s probably something you don’t even know about yet. God knows so much more than we do! We shouldn't question Him!

I know it sucks when you’re at the age where everyone around you, you know is getting married. You’re like “REALLY?! When is it my turn? WHY won’t he just hurry up?!” Girl. It’s not your time. Its someone else’s moment. Yours will come and it will be perfect just for you. Crafted specifically for you and your future spouse.

How about the “I don’t wanna be an old mom!” “I need to get married while I look good.” #1-God’s timing is perfect. #2-You’re going to look beautiful to your husband no matter what age you get married.. Or you wouldn't be marrying that person.

See God has this amazing ability to know the future. He knows when the best timing is. He knows when you’re ready. I am waiting for God to show me the right time. It may be the next time Cory is in, or it may be 10 years from now. And yes, by then I might be a little impatient… Lol but I know it’s for the best! I have prayed about the timing of our engagement and marriage for so long, that I know God is taking care of us and it will happen at the right time! Not only will it happen at the right time, we will be completely ready to build a beautiful marriage and life together! I fully trust God in the timing of our engagement. I want our marriage to flourish and fulfill the purpose of marriage set by God, so I will let God tell me when I am capable of doing it the right way. (Cause if it was up to me, we would've been married 2 years ago. It wouldn't have worked.) Divorce is not an option for me and Cory.

I know I am not the only person who feels this way. There’s no age minimum or age limit to wanting to get married. I thought I could get married at the age of 18 and be just fine! And for some people that works! But in God’s personal plan for my life, that wasn't going to happen.

You also gotta think about what happens after you get married.. You been so worried about getting engaged, then planning the wedding, now your married and what happens?! SLOW DOWN. Pray for a good marriage (healthy baby, the right job environment)!

The quicker you become content with God’s will for your life, the quicker God change your heart to understand that He has it all worked out. There may be major things coming up that would only cause you grief if you were married. Or maybe, that significant other isn't the one. This is a conversation you need to have with Christ. You need to talk to Him like He’s your best friend and ask Him to reveal the nature of your relationship and to change your heart to be about God’s will in your life, not your own.

Don’t stress if you’re not engaged, no matter your age. It does not matter. God has the perfect timeline set for you. You can either take the straight pathway, which is His way, or you can take the twist, curves and turns of your own way. It’s all up to you.

I challenge you to be content in the pacing of your life. Don’t wish your life away. Go with God’s plan. It’s the best plan there is. If you want a marriage that is BEAUTIFUL, or if you want that BIG marriage like I've talked about before, then you have to do it God’s way. I love Ecclesiastes 3:11 and I urge you to read it every day if you have to. Get your heart and your will on track with God’s will. It will be beautiful if you let it be!

Don’t choose your way and make things more complicated for you! Don’t rush a marriage that isn't ready or that may not even be right. Choose to be patient. Hebrews 10:36-“Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that He has promised.” So basically, if you read these two verses, they’re telling you to be patient, that Gods timing makes the most beautiful results, and that if you want that BIG marriage, you got to wait for it. “All good things come to those who wait.”

Just like I would choose a big marriage over a big ring, I choose God’s timing over my own. I choose a BIG, BEAUTIFUL marriage.