Size matters: A BIG ring or a BIG marriage?
As we all know, engagement season is coming up. It never fails from late October until mid January, an overload of engagements happen. And I LOVE, LOVE! I love seeing the couples commit to each other and start a life together. Marriage is so beautiful and its such a blessing!! But what are we turning this into? Are we giving to glory to God, or is this slowly becoming a competition? That's right.. We're talking ring size.
Most girls dream of this BIG ROCK when they get engaged. We talk endlessly about how we are ready to be engaged and pick out our rings months or even years before the guy even starts thinking about it. That's just how we are. I am most definitely preaching to the choir here. I have personally felt like I am in a competition, AND I'M NOT EVEN ENGAGED. What is this world coming to?! We are setting ourselves up for heartache and disappointment. (Not that men don't always do well, our expectations are just too high because of the way people make us feel and the expectation that the ring has to be huge)We dream up this perfect purposal and ring. We have expectations that our hand should almost double in weight. WAKE UP CALL: That's only for people like Beyonce and look where shes headed... The big "D." Divorce.
Women have got this preconceived notion that the ring measures love in the relationship. NEWS FLASH. NO ring, no matter how big or how small measures the amount of love in that relationship. It irritates me how cruel people can be. When we get engaged we are so excited and no matter who you are, you want to tell the entire world! (That is if your with the right person) So naturally, social media becomes a part of the process of celebration. What irritates me the most is that people will scroll down their Facebook pages, Instagrams and Twitter accounts and talk and/or think about how "small," "pitiful," or "tiny" the ring is. It could be a 4 carat ring and someone would find something wrong with it. Especially when they don't have a ring themselves! Its pure jealousy. I'm sure some girls are even nervous to post their ring pictures on the internet, not because its not a beautiful ring, but because of the judgment and the criticism you're going to get behind your back no matter how gorgeous the ring is! If you're a born again Christian and are finding yourself doing this, you need to take a minute, ask for forgiveness, for God to change your heart and say a prayer for that couples future marriage.
How dare someone be so hateful? Marriage is a beautiful thing between two people who love each other. Yes, in some cases couples are able to afford a big beautiful ring like we dream of (and this does not mean that don't have a wonderful marriage!), but sometimes, they simply can't. Can you blame someone for just wanting to get married because they love each other?! You don't know the circumstances of that relationship. They could be struggling, or maybe, they are being smart with their money and saving it. YOU DON'T KNOW THE SITUATION SO STOP JUDGING A RELATIONSHIP BY A RING.
The Bible talks about how this world is evil. How money is the root of all evil. It will corrupt your heart in a split second if you don't stay on guard. This world teaches us that "the bigger the better," "size matters." Materialistic things are only here for a short time; a vapor in the wind. Why do we get so caught up in wanting a big ring, when we should be focused on a big marriage? The same goes with weddings. Yes, I fully agree that it is one of the most important day of your life. But the materials at that wedding don't matter. The person standing in front of you is what matters. The life you live is what matters. Fulling God's purpose for marriage is what matters. Not how much money you spend, the location, how big your ring is, how much or what kind of food, or any of that mess. (I know we all like to plan this stuff! :) so don't get me wrong here! Its fun, but its not necessary). God doesn't care about how many carats your ring has. Do you care how many carats your ring has? Or are you focused on how big your marriage is? How are you going to fulfill God's purpose for your life and your marriage?
Girl, don't worry about your ring size. Don't worry about what people say. Don't judge what other people have. Don't be envious of what other people have.Be proud that God has blessed you with a man to love and support you! Now getting to working on your marriage or your relationship! Be satisfied with your portion, because God has blessed you with things that are more valuable than diamonds.. your salvation, a marriage, and unending blessings.
I'd rather have a big marriage than a big ring any day. God has called us all to be with someone who challenges us spiritually. God's purpose for marriage is to be more Christ-like. If materialism is of this world, we are not being Christ-like.If we are being envious, jealous, or judge we are not being Christ-like. Focus on what God wants out of you and your spouse. Not what the world wants. Jamie Grace has a song called "Do Life Big." I highly suggest you listen to it! Live your life to the fullest. Strive each day to set an example of the way marriage should be; how a husband and a wife conduct a godly marriage. Put Christ at the center and He will bless you immensely! You will receive more blessings than any ring can give you! Live for Christ daily and He will bless your marriage. A ring does not determine or measure your love. You're dedication to living for Christ, to each other and challenging that other person to live for Christ measures your love for not only your spouse, but for Christ as well. (Don't let anyone, come before God, however, including your spouse.)
Just think about this as engagement season approaches. Keep your heart where it needs to be. Not in materialism, someone else's business, or wishing it was you. God has perfect timing for you. (****Check out my next blog about the timing of engagement.) Be the Christian you claim to be. Stop being so hateful. Be happy for the couple! Better yet, be worried about YOU. I think it all comes down to this... Treat others the way you want to be treated. Start praying about your marriage.
Choose a BIG marriage.
Check out the book, "Before You Plan Your Wedding, Plan Your Marriage." Another really cute movie to check out would be "Can't Buy Me Love." Its an 80's or 90's movies, but its awesome!
Most girls dream of this BIG ROCK when they get engaged. We talk endlessly about how we are ready to be engaged and pick out our rings months or even years before the guy even starts thinking about it. That's just how we are. I am most definitely preaching to the choir here. I have personally felt like I am in a competition, AND I'M NOT EVEN ENGAGED. What is this world coming to?! We are setting ourselves up for heartache and disappointment. (Not that men don't always do well, our expectations are just too high because of the way people make us feel and the expectation that the ring has to be huge)We dream up this perfect purposal and ring. We have expectations that our hand should almost double in weight. WAKE UP CALL: That's only for people like Beyonce and look where shes headed... The big "D." Divorce.
Women have got this preconceived notion that the ring measures love in the relationship. NEWS FLASH. NO ring, no matter how big or how small measures the amount of love in that relationship. It irritates me how cruel people can be. When we get engaged we are so excited and no matter who you are, you want to tell the entire world! (That is if your with the right person) So naturally, social media becomes a part of the process of celebration. What irritates me the most is that people will scroll down their Facebook pages, Instagrams and Twitter accounts and talk and/or think about how "small," "pitiful," or "tiny" the ring is. It could be a 4 carat ring and someone would find something wrong with it. Especially when they don't have a ring themselves! Its pure jealousy. I'm sure some girls are even nervous to post their ring pictures on the internet, not because its not a beautiful ring, but because of the judgment and the criticism you're going to get behind your back no matter how gorgeous the ring is! If you're a born again Christian and are finding yourself doing this, you need to take a minute, ask for forgiveness, for God to change your heart and say a prayer for that couples future marriage.
How dare someone be so hateful? Marriage is a beautiful thing between two people who love each other. Yes, in some cases couples are able to afford a big beautiful ring like we dream of (and this does not mean that don't have a wonderful marriage!), but sometimes, they simply can't. Can you blame someone for just wanting to get married because they love each other?! You don't know the circumstances of that relationship. They could be struggling, or maybe, they are being smart with their money and saving it. YOU DON'T KNOW THE SITUATION SO STOP JUDGING A RELATIONSHIP BY A RING.
The Bible talks about how this world is evil. How money is the root of all evil. It will corrupt your heart in a split second if you don't stay on guard. This world teaches us that "the bigger the better," "size matters." Materialistic things are only here for a short time; a vapor in the wind. Why do we get so caught up in wanting a big ring, when we should be focused on a big marriage? The same goes with weddings. Yes, I fully agree that it is one of the most important day of your life. But the materials at that wedding don't matter. The person standing in front of you is what matters. The life you live is what matters. Fulling God's purpose for marriage is what matters. Not how much money you spend, the location, how big your ring is, how much or what kind of food, or any of that mess. (I know we all like to plan this stuff! :) so don't get me wrong here! Its fun, but its not necessary). God doesn't care about how many carats your ring has. Do you care how many carats your ring has? Or are you focused on how big your marriage is? How are you going to fulfill God's purpose for your life and your marriage?
Girl, don't worry about your ring size. Don't worry about what people say. Don't judge what other people have. Don't be envious of what other people have.Be proud that God has blessed you with a man to love and support you! Now getting to working on your marriage or your relationship! Be satisfied with your portion, because God has blessed you with things that are more valuable than diamonds.. your salvation, a marriage, and unending blessings.
I'd rather have a big marriage than a big ring any day. God has called us all to be with someone who challenges us spiritually. God's purpose for marriage is to be more Christ-like. If materialism is of this world, we are not being Christ-like.If we are being envious, jealous, or judge we are not being Christ-like. Focus on what God wants out of you and your spouse. Not what the world wants. Jamie Grace has a song called "Do Life Big." I highly suggest you listen to it! Live your life to the fullest. Strive each day to set an example of the way marriage should be; how a husband and a wife conduct a godly marriage. Put Christ at the center and He will bless you immensely! You will receive more blessings than any ring can give you! Live for Christ daily and He will bless your marriage. A ring does not determine or measure your love. You're dedication to living for Christ, to each other and challenging that other person to live for Christ measures your love for not only your spouse, but for Christ as well. (Don't let anyone, come before God, however, including your spouse.)
Just think about this as engagement season approaches. Keep your heart where it needs to be. Not in materialism, someone else's business, or wishing it was you. God has perfect timing for you. (****Check out my next blog about the timing of engagement.) Be the Christian you claim to be. Stop being so hateful. Be happy for the couple! Better yet, be worried about YOU. I think it all comes down to this... Treat others the way you want to be treated. Start praying about your marriage.
Choose a BIG marriage.
Check out the book, "Before You Plan Your Wedding, Plan Your Marriage." Another really cute movie to check out would be "Can't Buy Me Love." Its an 80's or 90's movies, but its awesome!
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