Keep It Classy, Don't Be Sassy.
Ecclesiastes 3:7- A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;"
When you are a person who doesn't have much to say in public, or you are always thinking away about something other than what is really going on in front of you, people tend to make assumptions about you.
Some people assume that I'm stuck up. And a lot of other things I'm sure.. But if you really know me, you know that most times, its hard for me to shut my mouth.
There are so many situations in life where we need to be outspoken, but also so many areas where we just need to listen.
My husband is a great man. He makes me so happy and I love him to death! No one in the universe, ever could make me happier than him or was made better for me.
With that being said... All wives know that you and your husband don't always get along. All at once you may want to kiss them and picture hurting them a little...Sorry, honey.
But get this.. The root of our arguments are MY fault. Yes, love, you are reading right. Cory is the man of this house. When I am here 20 days by myself, I become independent. So most times, I think things should be done my way. I'm not used to discussing every little thing. So when he is home and he makes me a little angry because things aren't said the way I want them said, or done the way I want them done, or he doesn't react the way I want him to react, I have the option to choose the outcome of the situation.
We've always heard, "choose your battles." As a woman, I am 99.9% of the time emotion led. I have to consciously control my reaction to each tiny battle. I have to make myself either walk away or just shut my mouth. God doesn't want me reacting with anger, sassiness and other emotions. And to be quite honest, I can be pretty sassy. Now with that being said, men shouldn't speak to their wives with anger either. But if I just simply shut my mouth when it comes to something so minuscule, it saves so much heartache, and time that I don't have to be arguing. If I want to win the war, I need to keep it silent.
Are you fuel or flour?
We all know that adding fuel to a fire, makes the situation worse, Adding flour to a grease fire, puts it out. So compare yourself. Are you turning a flame into a bonfire by spreading anger, sass, and hurt? Or are you spreading understanding, grace and forgiveness like flour and putting out the flame.
So ladies, learn how to "keep it silent" when it comes to a small argument. Don't be sassy. Shut your mouth, and let it slide.
Now don't get me wrong-the Bible also states there is a time to speak! So on things that matter-SPEAK UP. If you don't speak up now about something important, your man is going to hear about it later and that is not fair. If you don't like that paint color, or whatever, if it is important to you, speak up. Just remember to choose your battles wisely.
Sometimes we need to be silent to our husband and speak more to God.
When we argue with our spouses, we are frustrated, hurt or whatever, we need to speak to God about the issue. All to often we unload on our spouses and to be honest- guys just don't understand our brains sometimes so they look at us like we are crazy. God understands! We just need to breathe. (And if you haven't listened to Breathe by Johnny Diaz-GO NOW.) But make sure that once you talk to God, that you listen to his voice as well. Pray for your spouse daily. Pray that you communicate in a way that benefits you both. Pray for both of your hearts to be on the same page.
Sometime I need to shut my mouth and open my heart.
In everything we do, we need to be better listeners.We need to be present in the moment. Every breath is one breath away from eternity. Don't waste your time on things that don't matter. Listen to your husband, enjoy his company, take a breath, pray about it, listen to Jesus and then move forward.
Opening your heart to the healing words of Jesus is the most incredibly reassuring thing. He will take care of your heart, your marriage and the path He has laid out for you.
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