Submission: It's beautiful.
First of all I want to make it clear that I LOVE Cory Wayne McMellon more than I ever ever have and we are greater and happier than we ever have been! God has truly blessed us. We have gone through some major trials, but we are stronger for it and have been blessed because of it. Christ had told me Cory will be my husband one day. That is something I am beyond sure about. He makes me SO happy. But no relationship is perfect. And if you say yours is, you're lying. Lol. In every relationship, you have a point where at times you just want to kill each other. Am I right? Lol. But at the end of the day, you still love them more than ever. So what can we do to smooth the rough edges of our relationships? Submit.
Are any of you ladies in a relationship where you both consider it serious? Yet, HE DRIVES YOU ABSOLUTELY NUTS?! Hahahaha! I know how it is, they drive you to the point of insanity and its all their fault right? Some or even most times may be amazing, but then the next you just don't know how long you can take it. Maybe you have even made lists of what he does wrong or points you want to make when you "have a talk." Now don't get me wrong you LOVE him. Want to spend the rest of your life with him. You want to be his wife, and you want him to be your husband. Well are YOU acting like the wife you are meant to be? Have you ever thought about your responsibility of the relationship? Now don't get mad thinking "I never do anything wrong! It is ALWAYS him!" Girl.. Come on. If you want to be wifed up so bad, are you acting like the biblical wife God says to be? Now, I will say this.. Boyfriends do NOT get husband treatment. So purity, not just virginity, is key here. Don't get me confused. But if we want our serious boyfriends to act like and eventually be our husbands, we got to act like the wife God calls us to be. Now, in the past decade the power of a woman has gotten out of hand. We are capable of doing anything; we know that. Men know that. Well... Not all of them. And that is why we have struggled for so long to prove how "powerful" we are. God created you ladies!! YOU ARE WONDERFULLY AND BEAUTIFULLY MADE. We are awesome! But we have gotten so wrapped up in proving ourselves to be powerful, have our men "whipped," and to show that we are entitled to everything. And yes, we are equal and just as capable as men at anything. However, God has called us to be submissive to our husbands. Society has told us to "wear the pants" in the relationship and to have our men do as we say. "A happy wife is a happy life." See my point?
1 Corinthians 11:7- Men and women, who far too often butt heads with each other, submit their "heads" to the Head: God. 8 9 10 Don't, by the way, read too much into the differences here between men and women. 11 Neither man nor woman can go it alone or claim priority. Man was created first, as a beautiful shining reflection of God - that is true. But the head on a woman's body clearly outshines in beauty the head of her "head," her husband. 12 The first woman came from man, true - but ever since then, every man comes from a woman! And since virtually everything comes from God anyway, let's quit going through these "who's first" routines. 13 Don't you agree there is something naturally powerful in the symbolism - a woman, her beautiful hair reminiscent of angels, praying in adoration; a man, his head bared in reverence, praying in submission?
"Wearing the pants" is not our job ladies. We want our men to be leaders of our families; are we letting them be the leaders? Or are you complaining about what he's not doing because you wont let him? Who is making the decisions in your relationship? Who is really leading? 1 Corinthians 11:3 says - But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman [is] the man; and the head of Christ [is] God. (KJV) 1 Corinthians 11:3- In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife. The authority of Christ is the authority of God. (The Message).
Ephesians 5:22 says- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (KJV) or Ephesians 5:22 says- Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. (The Message Bible) Colossians 3:18- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (KJV) Its all the same!
Submission is yielding, or readiness to yield: a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody, or the act of doing so. So how do we submit to our future/current (if that's the correct term), husband? What can WE as women do to calm our relationship to make it BEAUTIFUL? Well look at it like this, the way we serve our husbands is another way of serving God. In the Bible, it also states that its sometimes better for us to be alone because we can better serve our Lord and Savior without the distractions of satisfying our husband and children. But if we serve our husbands in the way we would serve Christ, that improves our relationship with not only our husband, but Christ. Like I have said, we as women, are capable of anything. But if its God's will for your life, you need a man and man needs you. We are here to make each other happy. Do whatever it takes to constantly build a healthy and functional relationship with Christ and our husbands. Talk to God, talk to your husband. Don't walk away from a fight; finish it. Say "I'm sorry." Say "I love you" over and over and over. Hold hands. Spend alone time together. Let him lead. Let him be the man that he desires to be for you. Let God be the savior that He is!
In the past 2 months, my relationship has improved drastically. We have gone to arguing, to no cross words. After I realized we were in a place of frustration, I began to pray. God what can You do to help this relationship? And He told me that I had to do it. I had to stop blaming Cory for stupid tiny arguments and think about what I was doing wrong in the relationship. God challenged me to take responsibility for my actions and make a change. So in obedience, I did just that. God led me hear about and read about submission. I prayed for God to change my heart for the next time Cory would be coming in since he is only in for 10 days out of the month and gone for 20. As you can imagine, it put some stress on our relationship but it has made us stronger than ever. So when he came in, I made it a point to let CORY make the decisions as to what we did. Now, don't get me wrong, I gave my opinion. Lol. But I knew it was up to him. Instead of frustratingly declining tickling his back, I did it just because I know he loves it so much. Normally, neither one of us wanted to take the time just to help the other out. But the next day, without hesitation, I asked him to tickle my back and he did it. One night before going out to eat with some of our friends I told him I didn't want to be out late because I had to get up early the next morning. So when he asked if I was ready to go, I told him it was up to him. Out of respect for me, we left. Normally, he would've stayed for 2 or 3 more hours. But because I started being submissive, and gave him respect, he gave me respect. He began taking more interest in what mattered to me. He was so loving! When it was time for him to go back to work, the night he left was the hardest night yet. It has always been difficult to say goodbye, but this time, was a million times worse. Over such a short time, by being submissive, we learned how to appreciate each other more and we were going to miss each other so much more. (And neither of us knew that was possible) It was so hard to let him go. Just as most couples do after 4 years of dating, we have been talking marriage. We just haven't been financially able yet. Well after I became submissive and let Cory be the leader I need, he, on his own, came up with a plan on how we can afford to get married and is in the process of making it happen. I'm not saying being submissive will make your man commit, but I am telling you that when you are obedient to Christ, He will bless you for it. If you want to be happy, work on making someone else happy. Christ DIED for you. What can you do for your husband today?
Submission is yielding, or readiness to yield: a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody, or the act of doing so.
Are any of you ladies in a relationship where you both consider it serious? Yet, HE DRIVES YOU ABSOLUTELY NUTS?! Hahahaha! I know how it is, they drive you to the point of insanity and its all their fault right? Some or even most times may be amazing, but then the next you just don't know how long you can take it. Maybe you have even made lists of what he does wrong or points you want to make when you "have a talk." Now don't get me wrong you LOVE him. Want to spend the rest of your life with him. You want to be his wife, and you want him to be your husband. Well are YOU acting like the wife you are meant to be? Have you ever thought about your responsibility of the relationship? Now don't get mad thinking "I never do anything wrong! It is ALWAYS him!" Girl.. Come on. If you want to be wifed up so bad, are you acting like the biblical wife God says to be? Now, I will say this.. Boyfriends do NOT get husband treatment. So purity, not just virginity, is key here. Don't get me confused. But if we want our serious boyfriends to act like and eventually be our husbands, we got to act like the wife God calls us to be. Now, in the past decade the power of a woman has gotten out of hand. We are capable of doing anything; we know that. Men know that. Well... Not all of them. And that is why we have struggled for so long to prove how "powerful" we are. God created you ladies!! YOU ARE WONDERFULLY AND BEAUTIFULLY MADE. We are awesome! But we have gotten so wrapped up in proving ourselves to be powerful, have our men "whipped," and to show that we are entitled to everything. And yes, we are equal and just as capable as men at anything. However, God has called us to be submissive to our husbands. Society has told us to "wear the pants" in the relationship and to have our men do as we say. "A happy wife is a happy life." See my point?
1 Corinthians 11:7- Men and women, who far too often butt heads with each other, submit their "heads" to the Head: God. 8 9 10 Don't, by the way, read too much into the differences here between men and women. 11 Neither man nor woman can go it alone or claim priority. Man was created first, as a beautiful shining reflection of God - that is true. But the head on a woman's body clearly outshines in beauty the head of her "head," her husband. 12 The first woman came from man, true - but ever since then, every man comes from a woman! And since virtually everything comes from God anyway, let's quit going through these "who's first" routines. 13 Don't you agree there is something naturally powerful in the symbolism - a woman, her beautiful hair reminiscent of angels, praying in adoration; a man, his head bared in reverence, praying in submission?
"Wearing the pants" is not our job ladies. We want our men to be leaders of our families; are we letting them be the leaders? Or are you complaining about what he's not doing because you wont let him? Who is making the decisions in your relationship? Who is really leading? 1 Corinthians 11:3 says - But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman [is] the man; and the head of Christ [is] God. (KJV) 1 Corinthians 11:3- In a marriage relationship, there is authority from Christ to husband, and from husband to wife. The authority of Christ is the authority of God. (The Message).
GOD IS THE HEAD OF CHRIST, CHRIST IS THE HEAD OF THE MAN, THE MAN THE HEAD OF THE WIFE.
Ephesians 5:22 says- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (KJV) or Ephesians 5:22 says- Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. (The Message Bible) Colossians 3:18- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (KJV) Its all the same!
Submission is yielding, or readiness to yield: a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody, or the act of doing so. So how do we submit to our future/current (if that's the correct term), husband? What can WE as women do to calm our relationship to make it BEAUTIFUL? Well look at it like this, the way we serve our husbands is another way of serving God. In the Bible, it also states that its sometimes better for us to be alone because we can better serve our Lord and Savior without the distractions of satisfying our husband and children. But if we serve our husbands in the way we would serve Christ, that improves our relationship with not only our husband, but Christ. Like I have said, we as women, are capable of anything. But if its God's will for your life, you need a man and man needs you. We are here to make each other happy. Do whatever it takes to constantly build a healthy and functional relationship with Christ and our husbands. Talk to God, talk to your husband. Don't walk away from a fight; finish it. Say "I'm sorry." Say "I love you" over and over and over. Hold hands. Spend alone time together. Let him lead. Let him be the man that he desires to be for you. Let God be the savior that He is!
In the past 2 months, my relationship has improved drastically. We have gone to arguing, to no cross words. After I realized we were in a place of frustration, I began to pray. God what can You do to help this relationship? And He told me that I had to do it. I had to stop blaming Cory for stupid tiny arguments and think about what I was doing wrong in the relationship. God challenged me to take responsibility for my actions and make a change. So in obedience, I did just that. God led me hear about and read about submission. I prayed for God to change my heart for the next time Cory would be coming in since he is only in for 10 days out of the month and gone for 20. As you can imagine, it put some stress on our relationship but it has made us stronger than ever. So when he came in, I made it a point to let CORY make the decisions as to what we did. Now, don't get me wrong, I gave my opinion. Lol. But I knew it was up to him. Instead of frustratingly declining tickling his back, I did it just because I know he loves it so much. Normally, neither one of us wanted to take the time just to help the other out. But the next day, without hesitation, I asked him to tickle my back and he did it. One night before going out to eat with some of our friends I told him I didn't want to be out late because I had to get up early the next morning. So when he asked if I was ready to go, I told him it was up to him. Out of respect for me, we left. Normally, he would've stayed for 2 or 3 more hours. But because I started being submissive, and gave him respect, he gave me respect. He began taking more interest in what mattered to me. He was so loving! When it was time for him to go back to work, the night he left was the hardest night yet. It has always been difficult to say goodbye, but this time, was a million times worse. Over such a short time, by being submissive, we learned how to appreciate each other more and we were going to miss each other so much more. (And neither of us knew that was possible) It was so hard to let him go. Just as most couples do after 4 years of dating, we have been talking marriage. We just haven't been financially able yet. Well after I became submissive and let Cory be the leader I need, he, on his own, came up with a plan on how we can afford to get married and is in the process of making it happen. I'm not saying being submissive will make your man commit, but I am telling you that when you are obedient to Christ, He will bless you for it. If you want to be happy, work on making someone else happy. Christ DIED for you. What can you do for your husband today?
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